Ten Years In The Making – The Proposal



Other people call their beloved ‘dear’, ‘darling’, or other mushy terms. We call each other ‘mode’. There isn’t any real meaning to it, even the story behind the creation of this term is too lame to be worthy of mention. But just know that we call each other ‘mode’ coz you’ll see a lot of it in this post.

You know, I never have problems with writing beauty product reviews or makeup tutorials. I could go on and on and on, and more often than not, have to edit/shorten it for easier reading.  It’s only when it comes to sharing about my life that I often hit a wall. Why would people be interested to read about my life?! O.O

This time though, I am so glad that I have the Bun Bun Makeup Tips blog platform and all my beloved readers to share this blissful piece of news with.

First of all, a very Merry Christmas to you.

And then,





Can you believe it? The Bun got proposed to! *breaks into a happy dance

Omg, how do I start with the story? I’ve been sitting here for ages with memories of that night whooshing in and zipping out of my mind, while I smile dreamily at nothing, looking out of the window facing the orange sun sinking down on the horizon completely blocked by HDB flats. Hahaha, realistically bland end to sentence.

Okie. Ahem.

*feeling very excited by myself and keep having to backspace coz of typing errors*

This is our story.

We’ve been together for more than 10 years, since secondary school. *GASPS!*. I know right. Too long. So ancient until we can’t remember having an anniversary so every year passed just like any other.

Any woman who has been with a person she’s given her youth to for more than 10% of a century will want that person to marry her. Provided they love each other, of course. But The Boyfriend had been procrastinating for the loooooooongest time ever! In fact, we’d quarelled over this countless times before. Hints were no longer sufficient, instead I made it explicitly known I WANTED HIM TO MARRY ME. Pathetic. =(

I guess a lot of it had to be attributed to the fact that in recent years I’ve been receiving plenty of wedding invites and seeing couples who got hitched after only getting together for a short few years really got my blood boiling and heart aching.

Why did I have to wait for so long? How long more? Does he really love me at all?? :(

Unfortunately, or probably fortunately, The Boyfriend and I once again quarelled the day before – 23 December 2012. Wait, do I still call him The Boyfriend, or The Fiance? A person is considered to be engaged once a ring is put on the girl, right?

*cue Beyonce’s Single Ladies: “If you like it then you should have put a ring on it…”*


Bun Bun's Makeup Tip Trivia!: Did you know fiance (male) and fiancee (female) are both prounounced the same way? Sources offer different pronounciations, like fee-YAWN-say and ee-ahn-SAY, but whichever intonation you choose, use it for both fiance and fiancee. In French, adding an “e” changes the gender of the word, but in this case does not affect the pronunciation.


It wasn’t his intention to have us quarrel the day before, but it definitely helped in putting me on a total emotional rollercoaster ride. Going from a low to a high made the experience significantly more memorable.

On Christmas Eve, I attended a party at a friend’s. He asked if I could meet him at 2330 to pass me my Christmas present. Upset as I still was with him, I wanted us to spend countdown together. So I suggested we could meet earlier, at 2130.

He came to fetch me at Pasir Ris Interchange and seeing his empty hands, I asked “Where is my present?”, and he said “I forgot to bring”. He uses this line very often, which annoys me until I can roll my eyes to the back of my head every single time. But yes, I am willing to be annoyed for the rest of my life. Lol.

Hardly any words were exchanged during the bus ride; I was reluctant to engage in our usual banter. And then he had us alight at a bus stop that was crazily far from his house. I was lugging my heavy bag, with the cold wind beating against my poorly clothed skin and with this person who talked incessantly about our childhood memories. Annoyed Level x 100,000.

OMG, do I sound like a princessy brat? I’m not!! Girls have all the right in the world to want to be cajoled. We quarelled the day before, remember? Don’t judge me!! LOL!!

Then he said, “It’s nice to take a seat back, slow down the pace of life, and soak ourselves in gratitude for what we already have, isn’t it?”

(Erm, he doesn’t speak so fluently. Haha. I had to translate his meanings into proper sentences. Also, we converse in Mandarin.)

“We’ve been together for so long… Do you sometimes think back on our childhood memories? Like the time when you were working at ____ and I went to fetch you every day…”

Stubbornly, “I don’t think of such things when we quarrel”

“There are many other things to be happy about, other than me delaying the proposal, right?”

“No”, denying with everything in my heart.

OF COURSE there are plenty of things to be grateful for – Bun Bun Makeup Tips, Doll To Doll Cosmetics, family, friends, love, and I always feel grateful for every little thing in my life. Did you know that for every new ‘like’ on Bun Bun Makeup Tips and Doll To Doll facebook pages I will say ‘thank you’? HAHA, now I sound really weird.

In the heat of the moment though, I said no.

“My tortoise, the biggest one, is dying. He cannot open his eyes anymore”

“Why? What happened?”

“I don’t know, every time this happens, they’re gone”

I felt sad too. I never want to have pets.

As we neared his void deck, he asked me to go upstairs.

“You have to go upstairs and take the present yourself”

“Tsk, I’ll just wait downstairs. Bring it down. You would have taken it to Pasir Ris in the first place, right?” (Pissed that he always breaks his promises)

= Pulled me into the lift anyway =

When we reached his house, he walked from room to room, flustered. Made a call to his mum, asking where was his room key.

Then he came to me and said he locked his keys in his room, and the present was in his room. I was like ~wadeva~ and prepared to take my leave. Then he stopped me and asked me to go see his tortoise for the last time while he went to change his clothes to send me home. He likes to change clothes for no reason, so I didn’t suspect anything. (Hello mode, next time you wash your own clothes okie?)

So I went over to his tortoise house and sayang-ed it. I stroked its beautiful shell and whispered to it “Please get better okie? So that Justin will not be sad. Please get well soon…” I saw that the tortoise was very much alive, very active and its eyes were open. Sick, what? But you see, I trust very easily, so I didn’t think much of it.

After a few minutes, the then-Boyfriend-now-Fiance came to me and said “Eh, Mode is stoopid leh. This thing in front of you for so long already still cannot see??”


The note read:

Dear beautiful Juli,

Justin is always forgetful and careless. It’s Christmas, so please don’t be angry. I’ve got his duplicate keys. Quickly enter his room and look out for Checkpoint 1. Juli, do not remove anything besides the gift at Checkpoint 1.

Your beloved,

4 x Tortoise

The moment I read the note, tears dropped. Like uncontrollably.

“Checkpoint 1 is in the room”

Upon entering the room, I was greeted with walls plastered with mahjong paper. Perfect ambiance. The kind I love.

The-Proposal-1 Look at his childish bolster case. Bahaha!

Up till now, I still had not suspected a single thing. I just thought he wanted to give me a very romantic Christmas.

At Checkpoint 1 was a hand-drawn Christmas card. I’ve always loved his hand-drawn stuff. It’s obviously not the artsy-fartsy painted nor modern computer graphics kind of work, in fact I always say it’s very primary school kind of drawing (LOL), but I love them. So sincere and heartfelt.


He said the Christmas tree was the hardest to make. XD


Then he told me, “In every corner of my room, there’s you.”

The-Proposal-25 – Made this for fun –

Everybody now, ‘Awwwww…..!!!’

And he added, “You can check. No dust”. He later said he felt like he was back at camp doing stand-by-bed. XD

It was really fun looking at the memories we share.



I painted this colorful house for him! I’ve always loved happy colors. The insides were painted too, and I drew clouds on the underside of the roof. I think I made this when I was in university.



Also made him this tissue box. Not very well taken care of, this gift. Poor sun. :( The gingerbread man on the left would be him, and the right, me. This was made when I was in poly.


On the side of the tissue box. I love the bar code! Sewed black thread onto white felt cloth.


Had all the time in the world when I was younger to paint this side of the box.

The-Proposal-9 Look at my badly rebonded hair. LOL!!

And another side of the box, meant to be a magnetic board. Please excuse me while I admire my own work. HAHAHA! This handmade stuff era seems so long ago. It’s been ages since I made anything so complex for him.


Photo frames I made for him. The one in the middle has our finger prints. =)

The one at the extreme right is a collage of our trip to the beach when we were like, 17?


Paraphernalia from 10 years of dating.


Then he brought me to Checkpoint 2, which was just a wall away. Lol.


Revealed beneath the blue-tacked mahjong paper on the wall was a heart shape outlining photos from our yesteryears.


The Fiance said, “I felt regretful when I pasted these on the wall. We don’t have much photos together despite all these years. Next time I will take more”.

He hates taking photos, that’s why I made this for him a couple of years back.


This short comic I made out of magazines and felt cloth for him narrates a situation we always encounter. We’d go to some place nice and I would be happily clicking away and when I want more pictures with him, he gets irritated and issues me a quota for the day, like MAX 5 photos per day. I get more if we are on holiday. :(

Oh, you might have noticed we use orange and apple to represent ourselves. He’s the Orange and I’m the Apple. We had these two super cute plush toys many years back but he accidentally THREW THEM AWAY. I still feel sad whenever I think of them coz I can’t even find a replacement. They were so cute!!! And they mean a lot to us coz we always use them in our ‘art work’ for one another.


I don’t even have a good photo of them. :( This was taken with a lousy camera. Orange is of a brighter orange and Apple is of a softer red, not so harsh. Please let me know if you do see them around, okie? They would look so cute in our wedding photos.

While I went around the ‘museum’ taking photos, The Fiance said, “There’s supposed to be one more Checkpoint, but I couldn’t complete it in time. Sorry”

“It’s okie, you can show it to me when you’ve completed it =) “

I think he was taken aback by my cool. Lol. He was expecting me to want to take a peek at least or ask for some hints, I guess. But I love surprises and don’t like to spoil them. Besides, the surprises I had been given in the past half an hour was enough to last me for a long time.

Then he went on saying, “Okie la, I’ll just show you. Stand on the chair. Don’t turn around. If you turn around, I’ll fight you. I’m serious”. LOL!

So he made me do this.


“Okie, you can turn around now”

When I turned around, I saw this:


And him getting on bent knee, holding a box with a bling-bling diamond ring.

Actually I didn’t even look at the ring. I can’t even remember what he said! HAHAHA! Sorry mode! I was so overwhelmed by the sudden turn of events that I couldn’t register.

He said something like… omg, I cannot remember! @_@

But I knew when to nod my head when he asked if I would marry him.

I kept repeating “Am I dreaming? Am I dreaming??” HAHA!

Upon closer inspection I realized there was a picture of myself in the ring. SO UGLY! He said he chose it coz I look like I’m thinking whether to accept the ring, with a smirk. LOL! I must have been 18 or 19 in this picture.


The Fiance said triumphantly, “Now all the guys who want to chase you have no chance already. I WIN”.


This would be the picture you saw on my Instagram, Facebook, Twitter.


I was in his arms, giggling uncontrollably like a teenager when I posted it, and he couldn’t stop laughing at me giggling. Ahhh, what a sweet moment! Cannot stop smiling now. =D

So now that everything has come to light…

he didn’t actually forget to bring my present,

he made me walk the long distance from the bus stop to set the mood,

his tortoises are all alive and healthy,

he did not make the phone call to his mum,

he did not lock his key in his room,

he did not want to change his clothes before sending me home,

he didn’t not complete the last Checkpoint,

he did it all because he wanted to make me Mrs Mode.


Well, at least he tried to include one eye, one ear, nose and mouth in this picture with me. It’s a good start.

I told him before that I would like my friends and loved ones to witness the proposal, I would love to have wouldn’t mind a flashmob with fireworks in the sky and a band playing fanfare when he pops the question. But he said he’d rather bungee jump to profess his love than do a 1-minute flashmob routine. LOL. He’s very shy, especially in front of strangers. So it’s a tall order for him to do that. I like it this way too, simple, sweet and very heartwarming. Very mode’s style.

So what happens now? It’s so scary to think! We’ve bought the wedding photography package. The photos will be taken in Taiwan, but I don’t know when we are going. We’ve also got our house, which will be ready in 2014. And then we’ve other grown-up stuff to do like plan for the wedding, search for interior designers, get furniture, choose toilet bowl designs, go shopping for laundry detergent… @_@

How do people actually plan to do such things?? Do they go like ‘Alright, let’s go shop for bathroom tiles today’ and ‘We need a fridge, let’s go shop for it’ and ‘This brand of peanut butter should exist in our house’?? HOW??? :O

Thank you every one of you for your blessings! 😀 Feels so awesome to receive blessings in real life and online! Love you all!!!


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Hello! My name is Juli and Bun Bun is my alter-ego. I blog to share my love for makeup, how to apply it, and what works or what doesn’t work, all from an Asian perspective.

My first makeup product was a shimmery light blue lipstick which I proudly wore all over my eyelids and lips. It cost $2.50, felt like $250, and made me feel like a million bucks.

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Talk to you soon! =)


Juli & Bun Bun

  • Galuchka

    Congrats to you both! Very sweet and well executed proposal! Wish you a hapy life together full of love!

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @Galuchka Thanks Galuchka! The Fiance is very happy to hear that haha =D

  • misstamchiak

    CONGRATULATIONS BABE! The photo of u standing on a chair with a towel over ur head is damn funny lah!!!!

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @misstamchiak LOL!!! When he showed me the picture I also burst out laughing! He made me stand on the stool coz he knows my reaction quite slow one so I wouldn’t be able to get down or turn around fast enough. KNS. XD

  • lashesandstrokes

    Oh my goodness, this post is worth reading and staying up for. LOL! Congratulations, Juli! 😀
    I’m really SUPER DUPER HAPPY FOR YOU! – even if I don’t know you personally but I wish your soon-to-be hubby and you the very best in your future undertakings together. Its super sweet and I think this is what makes Asian men unique in their very own way. But truly, 10 years is a really long time and I can imagine you bursting with happiness knowing that it has been worth the wait. *happy sigh*I warned mine to not let me wait too long, giving the reason my biological clock is ticking! 😛 Muahahaha! Looking forward to see the wedding photos soon! :)

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @lashesandstrokes Thanks, dear! Thanks for staying up to read and share my joy! =D Another thing about ‘Asian men’ (LOL) is that they need a lot of nagging one. So just keep hinting. HAHAHA!

  • beautyholicsanonymous

    Awwww that’s such a cute story! I’m so happy for you, congratulations! Your man did well; that’s an awesome story to tell the kids 😉 xx

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @beautyholicsanonymous Thanks for coming by to read this post, Tine! ^_^* The man is feeling super proud of himself that so many people have thumbed up his efforts. Lol.

  • BAMBIx

    CONGRATULATION! what a super sweet and well-planned proposal, hehe.
    Don’t know why, but I keep smiling when reading your blog, happily HOHO 😀
    I’m so happy that you’re happy, and wish you new couples always happy like this forever.

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @BAMBIx Thank you, BAMBIx, my dear super blog supporter! Heehee! Thanks for sharing my joy and feeling so happy for me! The feeling of happiness is truly infectious, isn’t it! =D

      • BAMBIx

        @BunBunMakeupTips  @BAMBIx Yeahh definitely. Can’t help but keep smiling 😀

  • JoannaLim

    Congrats!!! the proposal is so cute and sweet! LOL

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @JoannaLim Thanks Joanna! Cute and sweet are very our style. Hahaha!

  • candyslice

    Congratulations on your proposal!<33 I can’t believe he made you fa zhan lol!
    A lovely story nevertheless~~~ :)

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @candyslice Bahaha! YA! And he made me fa zhan for a good 3 minutes at least, heard all the rustling of paper in the background. I told another reader below that he made me stand on the stool coz he knows my reflexes cannot be too fast when I’m balancing on a stool. LOL!!! Got strategy some more!

  • BooBooNinja

    Congratulations Juli and Mr Mode!
    Thanks for sharing your story!

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @BooBooNinja Thanks for reading this post and sharing my joy! =D

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  • mjacqueline

    Congratulations Juli, I am very happy for you.

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @mjacqueline Thanks Jacqueline! Very happy to share this joyous piece of news with all of you too!

  • orqngefirefly

    i’m real happy for you! congratulations! i have a question though, when you said that you had a house ready by 2014, was it a BTO or something? ‘Cos well, if you guys were waiting for the flat years back, wouldn’t that be a confirmation that he’s marrying you? :) Just curious, no flaming intent!
    Also, I’m also quite surprised to see that you converse with your boyfriend mainly in mandarin. Hehe, when I first saw your face I thought that you were more cheena than ang moh, but I can’t deny that your English is good so I can only conclude that you’re good at BOTH. So hard to find someone who’s good in English and Chinese in Singapore 😀

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @orqngefirefly Yup, it’s a BTO. Aiya, getting a flat is one thing, having a PROPER PROPOSAL is another. Haha! Girls just want to see that the guy has put in effort, stepped out of him comfort zone and do something special for the girl. People say that for a proposal, the guy must do it once, do it right. Otherwise the girl will nag forever. LOL. I’ve a guy friend who felt that he didn’t do a good enough job for his proposal, so when he and his wife went overseas for the photoshoot, he proposed AGAIN, in front of the camera crew and all. Woah, proposal Part II. So romantic!!! 
      Hahaha! Really! I look more cheena than ang moh?? People usually say I look more ang moh pai, jia kan tang one. And they like to think I was from some prestigious girls’ school. But I was from a humble neighborhood school, flooded with ah lians and ah bengs (but I’m not ah lian. LOL). But thanks for your compliment! ^_^*

      • orqngefirefly

        @BunBunMakeupTips  @orqngefirefly ahhh… so at least there was the ‘know’ that confirm will be married ah. i thought you guys never get BTO or anything, then if he didn’t propose of course you’ll feel insecure too 😀 I totally agree that there must be a proper proposal, so i’m extra happy that he has done it (and made the extra effort to do so!)

  • KarenTom

    omfg Congrats!!! 😀

  • KarenTom

    okay wait redo, I was just REALLY happy for you but Congratulations!!! 😀 hehee I LOVED reading the story. Post up the pictures when you can!

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @KarenTom HAHAHA! Love your redo. Thank you for sharing my joy! We’ll most probably be taking the wedding photos end of the year or early next year. So not so soon! =)

  • miemiemie

    awwww congratulations dear!

  • cicio_0

    Oh I just found out! Congratulations!! Finally 😉 I am very happy for you and mr mode did a lot of planning to surprise you 😀 He is a keeper!! I wish my mister would surprise me too…maybe one day 😉 Happy for you!! Have you planned for the wedding yet?? It does sound and is overwhelming but I am sure you will be fine and you would prob enjoy it too 😀

  • PositivelyNice

    So happy for you! 10 years! Wow. And finally, you will be wedding the guy of your life! =) Congratulations!

  • Joc267

    Congrats! My bf threw a box with a ring at me and said “hey you marry me”. Lol as romantic as we will ever get. You look so young to have been in a Rship for ten years! How old are you if you don’t mind me asking

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      @Joc267 Lol!! It’s cute in a way too, casual and cheeky. Seriously, guys KNOW we are ready to say yes. Hahaha! Oh we’ve been together since the end of secondary school. We’re both born in the year 1984. I don’t mind being asked at all. Age is just a number. =D

  • prerna26

    its such a great love story :’). I couldn’t stop reading it once I started. Congratulations!!!
    Btw I’m a big fan of ur blog, though I just found it recently!
    -Prerna (Female, India)

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      prerna26 Thanks Prerna! I’m so happy to share my joy with all of you! And welcome to my blog, hope you enjoy your stay! See you around! =)

  • serenneteng

    Hi babe, wow what a great and touching love story!! And it’s really awesome to marry the ONE who has been with you for like 10 years!.. Most important the mutual love between both and wish you all the best! By the way, i like your nick “Bun Bun” haha 😛

  • chinook12

    Just started reading your blog, and your proposal was really sweet. Wanted to ask if you managed to find the fruit plushies again? I have the lemon one and it is special to my hubby and I. Bought it many years ago when we were first dating.

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      chinook12 I haven’t found them in their original size, only one bigger orange and one giant apple. LOL! I didn’t know there was a lemon one! I only saw pear and carrot, I think. =)

  • infinoir

    One day I hope to find someone that will love me the way he loves you. You are so blessed!

    • BunBunMakeupTips

      infinoir I truly am! And you will too! =D

  • cat1fish

    congrats bun bun ! 
    i love reading your blogs.
    u ve always bring lotsa good insights n helps too. n backtrack reading yr post, really is a great n joyful moment to share!

  • chichi_tree

    hii I just found your blog and this is really sweet also I wanted to ask are you chinese?

  • tanushreebaruah

    This is such a sweet story – congratulations :) PS: So glad the tortoise is okay!

  • Emmy Ching

    One of the sweetest love stories ever! <3