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Why We Don’t Celebrate Valentine’s Day

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Yesterday my husband and I finally got to celebrate our first wedding anniversary, at the place we got married one year ago. Correction – technically it should be 1 year and 5 months. But that’s okie since we’ve never been big on dates and anniversaries. We’ve been together for so long we don’t even remember when we actually got together 11 years ago.

Here’s a little story on our childhood romance if you’re interested. 😉

Depending on your current status, I guess Valentine’s Day can either can a loving or cursed day. As far as I can remember, I never understood what the fuss about Valentine’s Day was, why people bothered buying gigantic overpriced bouquet of flowers or getting stacked like sardines next to a ton of other couples or why all these only happened on one day of the year. It always seemed a bit contrived and quite unromantic. Obviously the pressure to conform comes mostly from advertisers and retailers who created the need, making it sound like if you don’t shower your lover with gifts on February 14, then you’re not expressing your love well.

But shouldn’t love be celebrated and exhibited every day?

Mr Mode and I tried celebrating Valentine’s Day on the actual day a couple of times (back when we were young and carefree lol), and to be honest they didn’t feel any more special than any other day. Just more expensive, more forced, more pre-packaged.

As his 32-year-old self replied ‘just another day’ when I asked what Valentine’s Day means to him, I too feel that Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean anything except for the meaning we give it. It should not be a way to gauge your self worth or commitment to your partner. I’m not saying that Valentine’s Day is bad, but it shouldn’t make you feel less assured of your love or that buying expensive gifts and dinner means you’ve done your part in the relationship.

Instead of professing eternal love on that one special day, I would think fostering romance every day and sprinkling little surprises into daily life is the stuff love is made of.

When you are tempted to complain that he isn’t romantic (I do, sometimes), try making a list of things to remind yourself that he does, in his own quiet ways. This is particularly effective if your husband is shy and introverted or a hopeless non-romantic, like mine!

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Putting Together The Best Memories Of 2015, That’s How I Cope With New Year Blues

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I don’t know how they do it – celebrating, joyously bidding farewell to the year just passed after the clock strikes twelve, with great fanfare and pomp. I wish I could be that happy about the new year too.

For the first 2 weeks of 2016 – I hope I didn’t show it too much – but inside I was feeling incredibly dull, uninspired, bored. :(

I’ve been through 31 new years, but the transition into this year felt especially depressing. While many indulge in retrospection and prepare in advance their new year’s resolutions, I ruminated on 2015 and then felt like I didn’t achieve much. Like I wasted a whole year of my life achieving nothing. It was just a general feel of dread, lack of confidence, self-criticism, and probably exhaustion from a 365-day run.

To get out of the slump, I forced myself to behave positively, by doing things that make me happy, and you know what they say about doing the opposite of what you feel like doing? IT’S TRUE.

All I wanted to do was lie in bed and mull at how boring I felt my life was, but I made myself do things that would make me happy, keep my mind running, my hands moving. So I cooked, baked, went grocery shopping, bought kitchen ware. LOL. My friends have commented that ever since I got moved into my new home I have become very domesticated. I guess that’s how owning a house changes you.

I started moving forward with tiny little steps. Moving forward when you’re not feeling motivated helps you push through your fears, get out of your comfort zone, and win the mental battles you have with yourself.

Some people make resolutions to spur them on in the new year, I think that alone exhausts me, so instead I shall look back on the happy memories of 2015, which I hope will motivate me to create even better ones in 2016! ^_^*

A Place We Call Our Own

Finally, we moved and settled into our own home! It’s such a wonderful feeling to have your own home, and a dream come true to have my own room which is a study, studio, walk-in wardrobe, beauty arena, all in one.

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From: Non-Makeup Gifts That Will Make Your Makeup-Obsessed Friend Just As Happy

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I had one chance to take this set of photos for Scholl Pedi Foot File. The next day, Mr Mode’s built-in wardrobe went up.

I realized I love hosting parties at my house. As much as possible, I prefer to cook for my guests because it gives me an opportunity to try out dishes that can feed more people, otherwise it’s just Mr Mode and me on most days.

Here are some Dayre posts with pictures of our new home and hosting parties!

Cooking & Baking

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I’ve always been interested in cooking and baking, but never had to chance to really cook at my parents’ or in-laws’ coz… you know, it’s ultimately not my kitchen and I don’t want to go around messing up other people’s systems.

Now that I am the mistress to the house and chef (a term used very loosely lol) to my own kitchen, I spend long, long, long hours in there trying new recipes, failing, succeeding, experimenting. There’s so much science to it, and I love reading up on techniques and tricks. It feels very much like how I would spend countless hours reading up on makeup tips and practising when I first got into this beauty industry. Absolutely LOVE embarking on this new journey.

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Happy 1st Anniversary, My Childhood Sweetheart

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Exactly one year ago on this day, I married my childhood sweetheart.

We had two pre-wedding photoshoots – one in Taiwan at freezing 2 degrees celcius, and another back home in sunny Singapore. I didn’t show much of the Singapore one because it was too near to the wedding and I was too stressed and busy!

On our first anniversary I want to take this opportunity to share these fun pictures with you and tell you more about our little love story. You can also read about The Proposal.

Both Mr Mode and I were born in the same year and belonged to the same cohort but went to different classes. He was in a class famous for notoriety and often came up first in class – counting from the bottom hahaha.

I was at an age where I was testing and pushing boundaries so I had ah lian tendencies, but I had a good head on my shoulders. I wouldn’t call myself a goody-two-shoes, but I often topped my class. (I don’t know how to say this without sounding boastful)

The Courtship

Our first encounter was at a mutual friend’s birthday, his ECA (yes, CCA was known as ECA in the 90s) friend and my ex-boyfriend. Lol.

His existence was not known to me until after the party my classmate came to tell me that this pimply guy showed interest and wanted my number. I’m sorry but my first reaction was “Who?” then “EEEEEEEEEE!!!” 😆

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In school the only chance occurrence took place during recess time since we belonged to different classes. Once, his class got into such great trouble that they were relocated to a classroom right across the principal’s office. Everyone HAD to take that route to get to their classes.

Whenever I walked pass, his friends would shout my name and wolf whistle. I don’t think he ever whistled at me though.

What he did though, was stalk me.

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The stalking happened outside the school compound actually. I would often find him at a bus stop I had to walk pass on my way home and he would exclaim “Oh hi! What a coincidence!” every single time. And then proceed to ask if he could send me home since ‘it’s on the way’.

His courage swelled with each successful ‘coincidence’. Sometimes he would guide me across the road and pretend like it was the most dangerous road on earth and sneakily slide his hand into mine. So naughty! BAHAHAHA! 😆

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Ah Gong’s Kampung: His Childhood, Our Wedding, My New Family

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Mr Mode spent a large part of his childhood in his grandfather’s (Ah Gong) kampung in Malaysia; the place contains many beautiful and precious memories for him. I had only met Ah Gong once, when I joined Mr Mode’s family to visit Ah Gong during Chinese New Year. It was usually quite hard for my unmarried self to be with a family other than my own during the festive season, but Mr Mode and I had finally got engaged and I kind of had official reason to get to know his extended family in Malaysia.

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Ah Gong’s kampung is 2-3 hours (without traffic jam) away from Singapore. No matter the occasion, you will look absolutely ridiculous and out of place if you dressed in anything more glamorous than my above #OOTD. Lol. Comfort > Style.

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Mr Mode said this rusty swing has been around since forever and it’s where the most fun, the most heart-to-heart conversations, and the exchange of ideas have been made.

We had returned this time to hold the third segment of our wedding because many of his relatives do not own a passport and it was logistically difficult to have so many of them join us for our wedding in Singapore. Which was fine by me coz having a wedding in a kampung sounded fun and different! :smile:

In the evening, I changed out of my kampung gear, into something suitable for a simple wedding dinner.

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This restaurant is probably the most glamorous restaurant they have in the vicinity. It’s where all kinds of events are held – weddings, celebration of 60th birthdays (hence the ‘寿’ word at the stage), family dinners, company dinners, etc. It looked like those I had been to in Singapore in the 90s.

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First Chinese New Year As #MrMrsMode – Gardens By The Bay Flower Dome

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The number one question I get asked is “How’s married life?”.

Oh well, there are other (annoying) questions like “When are you going to have kids?” and “Have you started on family planning?”, but that’s a story for another time.

So, how’s married life?

I always thought Mr Mode made a not-too-shabby boyfriend, and despite the risk of him getting an inflated ego, I’d go ahead and declare that he makes pretty good husband material. He takes good care of me, washes the clothes, tidies the room, mops the floor… Hahaha. We still have our arguments but I think being able to see each more often than before allows us to clear any misunderstandings more quickly. Being married also makes us more accepting of each other’s shortcomings. Like, BO BIAN ALREADY. LOL!

2015 is our first year celebrating Chinese New Year together, and besides being first time angbao givers, there are so many new things to do together – one of them being visiting Gardens By The Bay! We didn’t know until we bought our tickets that there was an Asian Tales Garden Trail at the Flower Dome that runs till 8 March 2015.

It’s the Year of the Goat!

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Reminds me of the Three Billy Goats Gruff story.

Anti-Photography Husband

Mr Mode doesn’t like having his photos taken and would avoid it all costs. However, having had our pre-wedding photos (one in Taiwan, one in Singapore) and wedding day photos taken, I think he’s slightly more comfortable now. He still doesn’t like it, but he’d oblige for my sake. :)

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Mr & Mrs Mode Wedding Day – Part 2

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After the solemnization, we all went upstairs for lunch. For every guest, there was a placard with their name, a cake-in-a-jar (red velvet, which everyone LOVED), and a mad lib.

I once attended a wedding with my name written on a placard and loved the personal touch.

Logo, mad lib design, table arrangements by Rosette Designs. Cake-in-a-jar by Butter Studio.

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It’s okie if you don’t know what a mad lib is, coz I didn’t know either until I thought of having one for the wedding. I Googled ‘fill in the blanks card’ and then learnt that they’re called mad libs. Haha.

Instead of having guests sign on a guest book I’d probably never flip to read, I wanted to hear and keep what they thought of our union and hopes for our future together. :)

You can take reference from online sources, but I scripted my own mad libs and made it so that it’s very easy to make the story very R-rated but requires more creativity to make it innocent, joyous or funny.

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Lunch was served and activities took place in between courses. Our guests were encouraged to fill in the blanks on their mad libs.

What they didn’t expect was that selected people had to read out their own mad libs. LOL. I also didn’t expect, it was my emcees’ (Honey and Pris) idea, which was great coz we got to hear the real emotions behind the words too.

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